In my hood, i notice so many families, where the mother is the head person of the household. Very few are led by fathers. Single parent households ,I have come to notice, can have various effects on the children within the household.
My brother and I both live in the same household, but our family life is somewhat different. My mother really doesn't count as the head of the family, I take my great grand mother to be the head matron. But in that, I have been with my great grand mother and she has raised and took care of me since I was two weeks old, and my brother didn't meet her until he was like 7 maybe. I take my "granny" way more seriously, and respect her more than i do my mother. My brother on the other hand is the opposite. He almost has no respect for her and sometimes listens to my mother, but gives her a lot of respect.
The difference comes in when it comes down to fathers. In my life, my father has reentered the picture, and right now is one of the best things that has happened over the past couple of years. He is there for support, guidance, and inspiration, whenever I need him. My brothers father on the other hand, is not in the picture, and I can see the effect it is having on him. He is becoming a statistic within this black society, and seems to not be coming out.
Me personally, was raised very protected, because my "granny" didn't want me to find out the bad things that was occurring in our society, and in life itself. But as my mother came into play, and my family began to build with my mother so-called coming back into the picture, I learned that life can be a bitch depending on how you treat her (excuse my language). Its true, how you see life, and how you take care of it, is the exact way life is going to hit you back. I learned to do for myself, to depend on myself, and to think for myself, and in that mother or not, father or not, I'm going to be just fine. But my brother, he depended on my mother to much, and now her depends on her for everything. And that is the reason why he is becoming a statistic. He doesn't think for himself to begin with. Whatever his friends tell him to do, he's going to do it, no matter how much I tell him it's the wrong thing. And when her end up in trouble, he depends on my mother to get him out, and like a dummy she does. And this is a repeated offence. He doesn't do for himself either. He wants everyone to cook and clean, for him, whats going to happen when he can't live at home anymore? I believe the root to this problem is there was never a father figure in his life.
Females, not to much, but I strongly believe that males really need a male role model such as "dad" to be in the picture. I truly believe, if he had that structure of a male role model, to help him learn how to be a man and what it takes to be a man, he would be better off. Some children can't do with just a mother or just a father, some can do good all by there self. But boys need that source of support, in order to actually reach there positive full potential. Without it, they are going to look to the streets, and look within gangs, in order to find that source of support that they want, and are longing for.
With that said, I believe that fathers and mothers need to step up to the plate, and do what they need to do. Because I believe, that the root of all gangs, is the fact that a child had no emotional and physical support within the household. And if a child can't get the support they need from a father or mother, than where are they going to get it from?
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